I am free at office these days because my project is almost completed and haven't got any new of them. There are a lot of things piled up to describe
to friends and world around. What refreshing than Blogspot ! Okay so here you go :
(1)"Chokro toh aavo hovo joiye !"
(2)"Tuje kaisa ladka pasand hai ?"
(3)"What kind of guy would you marry?"
are questions which a girl would definitely face atleast once in a lifetime.
And we all know how much complex today's relationships are. And i personally feel that pre-marriage time is the most difficult one because you need to take care of a lot of things and your partner too.
Most of the people are not able to handle things at this early stage (and it is natural) and so the definition of the word break up. I and my sir even had a long discussion once as in "Can new generation break-ups act as virtual divorce".
What this post serves :
Once i and tirth , my roommate , were discussing as to what type of boy is considered ideal because we were sure that we were nowhere close to ideal guys ! Aapane chokri kon aapse ! A detailed description mentioned here. Girls , show this post to your boyfriends/husbands as it contains some really good points. Ask your guy to follow some possible points , if it does not hurt his ego. Improvement of just a little bit in your relationship would serve the purpose of this post.I agree that the points are generalized so it may not be feasible to follow all but i guarantee atleast 1 point would be relating to YOU for sure.
The ideal boyfriend :
(1)Lets take the general factors first as in the guy should have a sense of personality (i am not talking style here) , a sense of humour , comic timmings , proper attitude , masculine looks and a serious yet jolly nature. You'll have to pick out the definition of serious yet jolly nature from the points below
(2)Having good friends around you who fun you up in public but appreciates you infront of your girl , is always impressive.
(3)Confess the things infront of your girl even if they can hurt her. The hurting would be momentary but the trust would be everlasting.Pass a confectionery statement at last to convince her to not stay angry for a long time !
(4)Explain the logic behind what a boy wants from his girl. Explain you are also a boy with all those demands but keeping a control just to win her trust.
(5)Dream together . Open eyes . Period !
(6)After reaching a mature stage of your relationship , do call her at random times (afternoon , late night) to talk all like you've just started. Those line-maaro-item-patao days !
(7)Make some planning sort of agreements that 2 weekends in a month is your girls choice while 2 weekends are of your choice (I mean how to spend the weekends). I guarantee 1 out of 4 plans would get cancelled due to her personal/family reasons , so dont get upset. Let go things from your side. This would create a respect from your girl because girls silently maintain a log of cancelled events. She would realize this cancellations for sure.
(8)Be 'that' MACHO
(9)Whenever you guys are together in some group dress regular , but when it involves only you two , be her hrithik/salman. Pass a sugar at the end saying "Darling sirf tere liye" (I agree i am bad at writing such statements) with a mild comic tone !
(10)Since you both are together from a long time(i hope that) , you must be knowing the things/situations when she gets all flat. Repeat the same things/situations at one or other point of time with different spices added. She would acknowledge this in a very good form for sure !
(11)All goods and no bads make jhonny a non-exciting boy . Fight over some serious issues if you guys need to and bring a permanent solution. Bring a harsh step to action if you need to.The predicted output would gain a respect for you from your girl. She would say to her friends in future that "Its all because he can
visualize more than me.".
Okay don't blush if this has happened to you. Thats so feminine. Remember MACHO !
(12)Once in a while , take her to random outings in a particular time limits. Plan a random 1 day picnic with her.
(13)Always remember to celebrate her birthday in the most off beat style as possible. It would be just 3-4 years you've celebrated her birthday , but you have already won her by 30-40 years with these off beat celebrations.
(14)Take her to your relatives as much as possible.It would serve the dual purpose of dearness for her and restaurant money saving for you !
(15)Request her to pay the bills sometimes ! Don't worry , she'll do as you say !
(16)Always be the first one to take decisions and undertake the responsiblity.Let her understand that you are that serious that you take no chances in events which are decisive for your thing !
(17)Have a sexy physique !
(18)Apart from appreciating her infront of your friends , even show some public love. Thats a spice. Everyone loves Tikha these days !
(19)At particular intervals , make her realize that other girls still maaro-line on you but you dont pay any heed to them NOW !
(21)There would be a natural understanding bond between you guys when you be the slave and she , the master at home and 'master & slave' , vice versa !
(22)As far as getting intimate is concerned , follow your boths heart. Its not a big deal for some while its a universe-cracking for some. The person who is resisting should have a logical throw as to why he/she is resisting and the person who wants should throw as to why he/she wants it at that point of time.
(23)Do the 'Cool' things less if it does not hurt your lungs and liver !Only a zombie would like it !
(24)Be a good cook. There is nothing like the treatment you get , after the lunch which you prepared for her.
(25)Have some hardcore bedtime actions.It is important , either one of you is more expressive there !
(26)Make her enjoy the things which you used to do during your undergrad time ! Each and every guy has some college time special likings and things which make them happy .
(27)Behave in a good way in all the events where men are ought to get angry.Your this temperament would make her a fan of yours.
(28)Always like her choices. Remember you are one of them . Be careful on this point.
(29)After a particular phase , you are 110% sure whether you can handle her or no. Find a solution , don't stretch it more than enough.
(30)Make her understand in advance how much tired you get sometimes and what behaviour you expect at that time.Such situations are mother of all problems.
(32)Surprise getaways are always preferred by girls. One of my personal favourites is to plan a holiday or a weekend in advance and tell her each and every detail regarding it. And at the last moment change the plan to your originally decided secret place.Imagine going to paris instead of a goa trip !
(33)Be a good listener atleast infront of her.
(34)I am repeating this point that let her spend your money as much as she wants. This materialistic happiness doesn't last long in girls.May be max 35. But then 35 to 70 would be a bliss for you.
(35)However the tiger/lion you be infront of your friends, your office mates , your circle , make a habit to let her be the lioness at home.You would be able to get good returns I bet.
(36)Make sure to drop her at her place (under that neem tree) whenever you guys are together and however far she stays.She definitely would plan something each time you drop her next !
(37)Stay close in contact with her brother and her mom.Let the father stay as far as possible.This is a general one.All modern day boys are masters in such things.
(38)One good point to focus is the time to ask her parents.Don't don't don't do it early.Understand how much you earn , make her understand how much she spends & looking onto basic stuff , decide accordingly.I seriously cannot believe a guy getting engaged or getting rejected by parents when he just earns 25-30k and does not have any shed under him ! Such illogical creatures.
(39)I know this would hurt your machoism , but some of the girls still love THAT sharukh khan moving to a mandir to have a secret prayer for his future partner ! So be that SRK atleast once a season.
(40)Pass those cheesy pick up lines which you might be trying at clubs and beaches , to your girl/wife every saturday evening.
(41)Small points covered on a whole : Trust her , don't judge her , make her smile , listen to those "only-you-can-solve" problems , no overly protective etc etc
(42)Always mention her whenever you are giving a farewell speech or a welcome speech or special purpose events speech. Respect is what she gains and love is what you gain.
(43)It is initially difficult to cope with the behaviour of the girl if you are having an arranged marriage.Try to cooperate with her.Mail her , text her & whatsapp her the things you want to improve and the things which you love the most.Write at the end of the mail that you feel a bit shy so what better thing than texting.
(44)Try to be with her during once-in-a-lifetime events. For example , during her convocation,during a skydiving session (because she won't do it nexttime for sure !) , during her little brother/sister engagement etc.I hope you get the matching line of events in your mind now as i am not able to recollect more of them.
(45)It is okay to get a good cleanup/massage from your girl/wife once a time. Make sure you return the favour in a good way.
(46)Make remarkable events count : For eg : When a hot ass girl is passing by your side , don't even look at her even though the whole crowd is onto her. Instead talk with your girlfriend at that moment. You definitely know what the results would be ! Fun !
(47)This social media can sometimes ponder in serious issues. Define your likes/dislikes/preferences to her and both of you follow the same thing. Don't ask her to carry out things which are difficult even for you to execute !
(48)Plan various activities for your relationship.Celebrate a "All-yes" day for her , celebrate a once a month afternoon hideout , a lunch/dinner prepared for her , an item dance for her (Yes,do that) , swimming sessions for just 2 of you etc ! Develop and play a common sport and play it like opposite beasts ! Such things are a booster.
(49)I know you have that Angry young attitude and you sometimes shout on her , but know how to perfectly lift her mood.Even after a fight , there is no harm in bending down first even if you and she knows the actual culprit.
(50)Whenever you feel , you are saturated and have nothing new , do a start-up together . Remember , time used to fly when you completed each other's assignments and swapped the glass copies of engineering graphic sheets ! Haa !